For instance, 80% of divorces are filed by women, which sends a message to me.

Just about every woman I know has had a husband who did almost nothing of the household chores and taking care of their kids. They both worked full time jobs, then the wife came home, cooked dinner, cleaned up after, helped kids with homework, got them ready for bed, did the laundry and the house cleaning like vacuuming, sweeping, mopping, scrubbing toilets etc. They took care of grocery shopping and kids dentist and dr apts, shuttled the kids to all their activities etc. All while the husbands sat on their asses watching tv, or messed around out in the garage, or went out drinking with the boys, went fishing etc. Then the men have the nerve to complain they don't get enough sex anymore. Well duh, the wives are too exhausted for sex too.

If your numbers are correct that 80% of divorces are filed by women, this is a huge reason why. Marriage is a shitty deal for many women because many men don't pull their weight in the relationship. The "men" they married just create more work for the women, are just like having another child to care for, without really contributing other than financial. So it's actually more beneficial for the women in this situation to kick the husband to the curb so there are less messes to clean up after. They're handling everything already so divorce is a relief rather than a hardship. And once they reach our age, most of the kids are out of the house and they now have time to focus on a relationship. But they're not going to accept the same kind of man they were previously married to. So they're saying you better be bringing something worthwhile to the table cuz they aren't going to settle for that kind of treatment again. They aren't so needy for a man that they'll tolerate being the household slave again. They have their lives in order and are responsible adults ready for a relationship of equality and they expect your to understand that equality as well.