I have found this whole thread depressing but ultimately enlightening. I could be the woman in this post, my exboyfriend seemed amazed that I was interested in him and I don't think took the time to really consider if I was what he wanted. We connected on so many levels and had so much fun together but ultimately he was not sure if I was "the one" and he broke up with me at our 1 year mark.

We both said we wanted long term relationships but he clarified when we spoke a while after our break up he decided he needed someone who played all of his sports/activities (I do 5 out of 7) and is more athletic/leaner (I'm fit and love my body). My heartbreak has turned to disbelief at how different our requirements are for a partner. OP should definitely