I worked as a webcam girl and was raped by my stalker. [trigger] [support]

You're right about that, but there's more to consider. I don't think this is the best place to discuss it, because this is about her story, so hopefully this one reply will help explain my thinking.

People lust and love out of strong instinct. We also hunger out of instinct. When someone goes to a diner, he pays for a sandwich, he eats it, and he's satisfied. He might return, but he might not.

But what if the diner put a hard drug in the sandwich? It changes things. Now he's addicted. He tries other diners, and it doesn't satisfy. He needs that one. They're closed. He breaks in.

How are they at all similar? It's because of bonding. If you ask anyone with prostitution experience, they'll tell you how it's not simply a single exchange like a sandwich for money.

What really happens, is many guys form attachments. They feel an emotional connection. They bond like they would with a real mate. It isn't only temporary pleasure, it's a longterm bond.

That works for them to make more money. They can feed into that to get repeat business. But it's also playing with fire, because the guys addicted are instinctually viewing them as their mate.

People kill to protect their mate. They'll fly across continents. They'll give all the money they can get. They'll go into debt to give her gifts. It can all work in her favor, if she's behind glass.

But some of those people with that same kind of obsessed addictive bond, are violent, and deranged, where they don't just show up with flowers, they'll break in. It's really dangerous.

I hope she distances herself, and nothing like this ever happens again. She will be alright, as long as she can keep a positive attitude. She should understand that this event does not define, or impact her identity in any way. She's the same person as she was the day before. A wild animal attached himself to her, out of his confusion, but they did not mate. She is free, and no baby will form. His claws left her the moment he left. She has to understand that, because the emotions can be misinterpreted to feel like she's scarred for life, and he's permanently infected her. That's not reality. I hope she realizes that, because she has a bright future ahead of her, and this does not need to impact that at all.

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