The bigger issue is that you think you are dumb. You think you are more damaged than they. You are less than they because you do not fit into their situations. Not true. To be able to see that millions of people have the same issues; that means you are broken? To look at someone and be able to see huge flaws is a gift. But to be a more 'In tuned' person, you have to be able to make decisions that change who you are, the way you do things, your outlook. You are not dumb, or even broken really. You just see things in the world that not a lot of other people do. I've found that to enclose oneself in a comfort area is often healthy for the individual. But prolonged enclosure causes damage regardless. You have to be exposed to the things you dont like to keep.. 'in tuned'. You are, in my opinion, fine. You'll just have to find a way to manage the fact that you live in a world that shouldn't be the way it is, and it will not change enough to make you live happily in your lifetime. Thats just the way it is. There is too much to fix in one lifetime.