I guess I don't understand how your husband is not staying true to that part of your vows? He is staying with you, just not doing certain things the way you would like. I am sure it hurts for the both of you but you chose to get an abortion instead of having another kid. It seems honestly like excuses but don't try and justify it to me I am just a stranger on reddit. All I will say is people have managed way better with way less and you should be grateful you have a man who is willing to put up with any of this at all. That choice doesn't come with an option of no stress, hurt or emotional damage. If you care about your daughter you will do whatever it takes to make sure this never happens again. I mean you know how babies are made obviously and your health issues didn't prevent you from doing the deed, money issues didn't prevent you from going out and getting rid of the child that would be inconvenient. You would have been high risk? Moving would be stressful? Sounds like bleeding copious amounts and getting mad over not enough cuddles is also risky and stressful. Honestly I wish you the best but you really should try to focus on the postives and go hug your little girl as tight as you can bc she is the real victim in all of this and doesn't even realize it.