That following Tuesday, the 13th, she activated her phone. I was talking to her via FB and before I could ask for her number, she went offline. This wouldn't be a problem except for that she wasn't getting on FB anymore. Since I didn't know when she was next getting online, I sent her a pre-preemptive message asking if she wanted to hang out that weekend. She finally got on FB that Friday, the 16th, for a brief minute to just say "idk maybe" and then got offline. I didn't get a follow up to her maybe.
Again, I feel like its over between us. However, the following Tuesday, the 20th, she sends me the most nonchalant "hey". I respond back just to have her read my response and not reply back. Later that night, I send her another message telling her how I was moving out that week. This got her attention and we actually had a conversation.
The following day, she tells me that she was moving out that week as well and asked for my help. I agreed to help her. That Friday, the 22nd, I picked her up and help her move into her place. The entire time I was lowkey trying to invite her back to my place but she was unresponsive. However, once she got high, her attitude changed and became interested in hanging out at my place after we were done moving her stuff in.
We go back to my place, we have some dinner and then start watching a movie in my room. While we were both laying on my bed, I tried to get in closer to cuddle with her throughout the movie. However, it felt like every time I got closer she would move away from me. After the movie, we smoke some more and go back to laying on my bed. She immediately proceeds to tell me that she's on her period. No problem, shit happens. However, I knew she was lying for two reasons. First, I know her cycle so I knew her period should have happened the previous week. Second, earlier that day I realized that she wasn't wearing any underwear. If a girl was on her period, she would wear underwear.
At this point I wasn't sure what to do. I considered just taking her home at that very moment. However, I went for a kiss to see how she would respond. For a moment I thought that she was going to push me away, but I just caught her by surprise. Once she realized what I was doing, she went with it and started making out with me. She got into it and we went the whole way and had sex for the first time in over a month.
Afterwards, she nonchalantly says, "yeah I lied about being on my period". I asked her why and she said, "I was testing you. I wanted to see what you would do. I would have eventually told you that I wasn't on my period." I was so dumbfounded by her response that I couldn't ask any follow up questions before she changed the subject. I really should have asked what she was testing me for.
As I'm driving her home that night, she tells me that she's off the following evening and would be down to hang out. This surprised me as I'm usually the one having to ask her when she's available or if she wants to hang out.
The following day, the 24th, I text her to see how's she is doing. I got no response. I figured that she was busy or something. The days go by and I still got no response to my text. She got on FB once or twice but I didn't want to message her on there when I already texted her.
Come Friday, the 30th, a full week since I last talked to her, she sends me another nonchalant "hey". We start talking and I find out that she needs a ride home from work that night. Being the good friend that I am, I agree to give her a ride. At this point, I kind of expected to just give her a ride and not hang out afterwards.
I go pick her up at that agreed time and I had to wait an extra hour because she got off late. No big deal. I'm a patient guy. Right away, she asks me if I want to hang out. I was surprised that she asked but of course I said yes.
We go back to my place, chill for a bit and then fuck for hours. She fell asleep immediately after we finished. It was 5:00 am so I decided to let her sleep and went to sleep as well. When we woke up, she started cuddling with me and playing with my hair. I took that as a sign and so I commenced making out with her and we had sex again.
After we were done, I took her home since I had work that day. As I was driving her home, she again tells me that she has the following day off so I ask her if she want's to hang out again and she agreed. Next day, superbowl sunday, we hang out again. Of course we have sex again. However, this time she was getting more into it and started talking dirty and called me "baby" for once. In addition, she mentioned how I was fucking her better than before and that she was really enjoying it.
The following day, while at school, I text her to just have some casual talk as I ate lunch. A few hours later, she asked if I was still at school. I said "yes" and asked why. She said, "just curious...". I then asked her if she wanted to hang out again and which she said yes. Therefore, we hang out again for the third day in a row. Something that's never happened before. Actually, we had never hung out two days in a row before that week so I though that she was really getting into me. Maybe even falling for me.
At this point, I'm trying to see how many days in a row I can hang out/see her so I offer her a ride home from work the following day, the 3rd of February. We talked for a while in my car but it turned out she had work the whole day on the 4th so I took her home. However, she told me she had the 5th off so the following day I asked if she wanted to hang out after work. She declined and said she was going to hang out with other friends. I was expecting a no and figured she would want to hang out with her other friends so I wasn't upset or surprise by her response.
I was busy the rest of Wednesday and all of Thursday so I didn't even bother trying to text her. Come Friday, the 6th, she sends me a text and we have almost the exact same conversation as the previous Friday. Meaning she needed another ride home from work. I agreed again. While we were still texting, I asked her if she wanted to hang out afterwards, but she said, "how about tomorrow". I told her that that would work with me since I had the entire day off. I then asked her if she would like to spend the night at my place that night so I wouldn't have to pick her up again the following day. Probably a bad idea in retrospect, but I digress. She said she couldn't because she didn't have extra clothes on her and had to pay rent in the morning. I said that that was cool and that I didn't mind the drive.
Fast forward a few hours, I pick her up from work. She asked me if I could drop her coworker off at the trolley station. I agreed since it wasn't much of an inconvenience. Afterwards, I drive her to her place and we have a really nice conversation and she even gave me a cookie. As she was getting out of my car, I asked her when she would want to hang out the following day. She said that she was going to hang out with some other friends first and would text me when she was ready to hang out with me, approximately around 8:00 PM. I say "ok" and she says, "see you tomorrow" and then goes inside her place. Everything was good.
Next day comes, the 7th, and I get no text from her. I remembered she said something about drinking with her friends so I figured she might have gotten too fucked up and couldn't hang out or lost track of time with her other friends. I also remembered that she said that she had Sunday, the 8th, off as well so on Sunday I sent her a txt asking if she wanted to hang out. I didn't mention anything about her essentially cancelling on me the previous day. She doesn't respond again.
The days go by with no response and I figure that she's going silent for another week like she did that one time before we had our 4 day hang out spree. I expected her to txt me on Friday asking for another ride. However, Friday comes and yet not txt from her. At this point, I am confused as to what is going on.
This Tuesday, the 17th, I noticed that she was on FB for the first time in a while, so I figured I try sending her a message via FB messenger. I sent a simple, "hey, how you been?". She immediately reads it but again, no response. Now it's Friday, the 20th, she hasn't responded to my text from the 8th or responded to my FB message from the 12th. In addition, she didn't text me today asking for a ride.
Now I would like to know as to why she is not talking to me anymore. When it appeared as though we were closer than ever she just fell of the radar. Again, I feel like it's over between us. I'm pretty sad now. I'm not sad that I am losing a fuck buddy. I'm sad that I am losing a good friend for what seems for no apparent reason. Over these last five months, I've gotten to like her as a person and really considered her a good friend of mine. The sex was just an added bonus.
Is there anything I can do to try to fix this? I would really like to talk to her about what is going on. I'm considering giving her a phone call and leave a voice mail if she doesn't answer. I am also considering visiting her at one of her jobs to confront her in person but that seems kind of extreme. At this point, I have accepted that it is over between us unless she says otherwise. However, I really want to know as to why she won't talk to me. Like I said, it seemed like we were really close. Sometimes we even felt like a couple. It just doesn't make sense. On two occasions, she tossed her phone aside and said, "I don't need this[her phone] since I'm with the only person I talk to.
People of reddit. What do you think about all of this. Any advice?