I understand your frustrations and I'm sorry you're feeling this way, but I don't think someone is a horrible person simply because they don't want to be a caregiver and would rather hire someone to help out. Mistreating a family member and excluding them from family functions is wrong, but NOT being a caregiver isn't evil in and of itself. No one is required to devote their lives to taking care of an elderly family member, etc. If someone would rather live their own life because that's what makes them happy, I don't think that necessarily makes them a bad person. Some caregivers start to feel resentment and even suicidal thoughts, because they can't cope with it anymore because they're so unhappy and they feel like they're not getting to live their lives and are instead stuck taking care of someone rather than getting to enjoy their life.

I've even heard of people committing suicide because they were so tired of it. It is a tough job, and not everyone is equipped to handle caregiving, especially if it's 24/7. There's also the fact that some people have careers and can't afford to quit their jobs and be a full-time caregiver, some people have illnesses and disabilities of their own and they wouldn't be able to fully take care of another person in addition to dealing with their own problems, and some people just simply don't want to have that type of responsibility and would rather have the freedom to do what they want with their life. There's also the fact that many family members don't want to be a burden and would rather hire a nurse or a caregiver, or even go to assisted living care because they don't want to have to put that burden on another family member of theirs. I'm sure most people will disagree with me, but I just wanted to share my opinion.