Hi there!

I believe I can shed some light on this. I've been in the exact position where your husband is currently from a past relationship.

Mine started off just as yours, intimacy through the roof for the first time, then small things become less frequent, then frequent things becomes almost non existent.

At first, sex is FUN. its new and exciting, and you cant really get enough of each other.

Unfortunately, time takes a toll on any relationship. How you perceive each other changes, and quite frankly, once you've had sex enough, it almost becomes routine. You do the same things, get off the same way. It stops being exciting.

Things like small arguments and petty things has an effect on how much he might want to be intimate. Small things that might not mean anything in a small sample chips away at those desires to really ravage you. Its no ones fault, things like that are unavoidable.

I should be really clear however, the fact that he's not that into having sex and being intimate with you, has nothing to do with you. I'm sure he loves you, I sure loved my then girlfriend, yet I chose porn over her for months at an end. It was just convenient, to get off to my own fantasies without all the "work" of sex, rather than go through all the work of indulging her in them.

In my case, I don't think I would have come around with out a lot of initiative from my SO.

My advice, do something kinky that will get him fired up. Watch porn and masturbate when he walks in the door, don't stop until he joins you. Give him a spontaneous blowjob when he's not expecting it, perhaps outdoors. Put a finger in his bum, maybe he's super into that without really wanting to tell you.

My point is, be inventive, and step out from the routine you're currently in. He's watching porn because it stopped being exciting. Make it exciting again, and you'll get all the attention you want.

I know you're scared to be rejected, but you wont be.