I just had my first baby 3 months ago, my husband is an alcoholic. Of course I knew that when I met him, he was in AA but after a year decided to fall off the wagon again. He is good to me, and he is great with our son. But he drinks every night. Sometimes he gets too drunk to hold our baby. Though he never gets angry he does become belligerent at times. How do I deal??? I love him more than life. I fell in love with him so deeply and swore that I would never leave. I find myself continuing to love him through every day and lets face it- intoxicating night. He does his best to support me, he works every day sometimes long hours, while I stay home and tend our boy. He makes the money and gives me plenty, he loves me and our son so very much. He shows us he loves us and he tells me every day more than once that he loves me and all that I do. But he loves to drink. and he drinks to get drunk. Sometimes I am pushed and I yell and scream at him. Because to me its the fact that he would rather be drunk around us than sober. But for him its an addiction he fights over and over again through out the night. Every night. Bottom line: Everything changes when your baby is born, yet everything remains similar to what it was before. You just have a little bundle of love that connects you even more to your husband. Your husband sounds like a good man who will love his baby and love you. He doesn't feel the baby yet like you do, but he will. He will know how big a deal it is. Just be patient, and let him have a drink or two. Be glad he's not an alcoholic. Be open with him, and he will be open with you. Give a little, take a little. You will be just fine and so will he. Don't agonize or over analyze. Just love him and he will love you right back.