[25F] Long term boyfriend [23M] love confusion [X-Post from /r/relationship_advice]

Thank you very much. I'm due to see a therapist, hopefully next week if all goes to plan. However, ultimately I think you're exactly right.

I was most definitely in the wrong, but I believe for whatever reason, I am capable of loving more than one person, if the circumstances allow for it. What I need to do is learn from this and to prevent any kind of intimacy from forming with any future friends or individuals. Yes, it's going to be like grieving the loss of a relationship and close friend, but I do not think it's worth throwing away a fantastic love-filled relationship of years for what happened.

I've begun a very honest and open dialogue with my boyfriend, to which we hope to be able to build trust back up. Through the sadness, in many ways we have been looking at our relationship in a very objective light, to which we have noted that we need to spend a lot more time together. Not to the fault of anyone, but the last few months we had been extremely busy with work, and other pursuits, not spending that much time together.

I've had a lot of time to think since the distancing, and I will have more. I think time will be the thing that heals all of us here.

I really appreciate your comment, it has helped significantly in my dealing of this situation and my life in general.

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