I'm in almost the exact same situation as you; I'm so sorry to hear what you're going through. I know how difficult it can be to watch someone you love fall so deeply unhappy and push you away. I was dating a guy for 9 months who has suffered from depression all his life. A few weeks ago he broke up with me because he's been in a really down mood for two months. (We're both 29) He steadily became more and more introverted and emotionally reserved. It's been really difficult because I truly love him, and I've seen the love and affection he's capable of. But right now, he just couldn't handle being in a relationship. What has been helping me is imagining the kind of sacrifice I would have to make if I was with him long term. Can you imagine watching your SO pull away emotionally for weeks/months/an indefinite amount of time and wait patiently for them to feel better to start showing you love again? From everything I've read and seen first hand, people suffering from depression feel like they're failing to meet others' needs and expectations so they pull away. As much as it hurts me, I still reach out to my SO to be a positive support to him. I have no idea if this is good advice or not, it probably means it might take a little longer to get over him and move on. But for now, I'd rather make sure he's in a good, safe place before I truly move on. I'm not sure how severely depressed your man is, but I would just try to keep a positive position, one of love towards him. It's not his fault he's depressed, but think about what it would mean to deal with that for the rest of your life. Is that something you really want for yourself?