But since December 31st, 2012 (and yes, I remember the exact date) we've had sex all of eight times. Eight. Times. And it's not like it was. She just, um, lies there. Two of those times she's pretty much told me to hurry up cause she wanted to sleep. She wasn't ever like that before, she was always into it. And all eight times she's been drunk. I can't remember the last time she was sober and had sex with me. All eight times I had to, um, get things started, which never used to happen. And it's not just the sex. She won't touch be anymore. She won't kiss me. She pushes me away at night. On the couch, if I try and snuggle when we're watching TV, she complains of 'claustrophobia' and makes me sit somewhere else. We bought a new bed recently, and I'm increasingly convinced she got a bigger one so she doesn't have to touch me anymore.

Here's the hard cold truth. She's not in love with you anymore, and because of that she's not attracted to you anymore. I know she will probably deny that and some people on here may not like me saying this, but the sooner you accept this, the better. She is in a mindset right now that something about you and her relationship to you is wrong. Who knows what it is. She probably has a list. Maybe it's the way you leave the toilet seat up. Whatever it is, the list is probably growing, and the list is probably irrelevant. A lot of times a person will make these lists of all these things that are wrong in an attempt to try to justify why they feel like things that aren't right. The reality usually is that all these things are bothering them because they're not attracted to you, not the other way around. These things are not the root cause. They're just symptoms, and trying to treat the symptoms does not fix the problem. Honestly, once a person get's into the mindset that they're not in love with you and not attracted to you, it's very hard to come back from that. I couldn't tell you what to do because I've never seen success in that situation either in my experience or my friends. I'm sure someone has gotten through that situation, but not anyone I know.

The only other thing that it could be is something that fucks with her hormones. The most likely culprit in this category would be birth control. It's well know that hormonal birth controls have unpredictable results that can often include tanked libidos. Did she change birth control around the time this started? Did she start any other medications? Alternatively and much much much less likely, is she sick or did she have a brain injury? If none of these things, then my first paragraph is probably your situation. I'm sorry.