To be fair the sister comment was because his sister absolutely loves her name and is proud to be a woman with her name. And since my reasoning was that any girl with such a masculine name will hate it, that's what he brought up. I dunno, it's real world evidence. Obviously it's not enough to decide to just start naming all genders their opposite-sex names (which is why we've taken Theodore off the table) but I get it. He has positive life experience with a woman having a masculine name and has no reason to believe it can't be the same for his daughter.

He doesn't care about the sex. He's made that clear since day one. He's a good guy. He's not some woman-hate asshole. He just truly believes Theodore is a beautiful name for a girl. And while I think that's utterly ridiculous, he doesn't. And he's entitled to his opinions just as I am.

We're not naming our daughter Theodore. It's been decided. I just hate seeing him upset and don't want him to be. I don't know how to fix it, though, because naming our daughter Theodore is something I absolutely will not budge on. And he's said he doesn't want the name either if I so clearly hate it, so I don't know where to go from here. I just want us both to be equally excited about naming our daughter.