30/f with 35/m, together 3 years. Anyone else who dealt with relationship which started at work, which ended, and then their ex started dating someone else at work?

It's an odd thing. People say not to start relationships with anyone you work with. When I was younger that was pretty much the only way you could, especially since the Internet was in it's infancy and going to bars isn't your thing. I had some that worked, some that didn't. There was one gal that I was interested in, but her excuse was she wouldn't date someone she worked with. I was in the friend zone the entire time I knew her. Eventually she reneged and dated her manager. They went on to become married and are still to this day (I've seen them around town).

Then there was a couple I knew who owned a business and I worked with them. She ended up cheating on her husband by sleeping with her employee (my co-worker). She got pregnant, divorced her husband, and ran off with the kid (he was 19, she was like 31).

About 6 years ago there was a someone I was interest in at work and I knew she had dated a co-worker there, but they broke up. We went out drinking one night and I told her how I felt and she toyed around with me, but pretty much still shot me down like she wouldn't date someone she works with. Kind of hypocritical.

So, it's tough to say. It seems like, in the end, workplace relationships don't end up working out very well for at least one person involved. Which is why, if I wasn't committed now for the rest of my life, I wouldn't depend upon it anymore.

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