I have the same problem, but I need to talk about my feelings and hear from my partner about his feeling or thoughts. This kind of feedback from my partner gives me the opportunity to undertand him and myself better. If I do not talk about my feelings and do not have feedback from my partner about his feelings and thoughts, I start to overthink and overreact. I feel confused in some situations, because I feel that I do not understand my partner well enough. If I see that my parter has his own problems and does not talk about it, I feel that it might be something about our relationship or something that I did wrong. I have often truble to recognize what my partner feel, if he does not talk about it. It takes me a while to understand how I feel about something, because I do not recognize some of my feelings well enough.

I know that I need to work on myself and my reactions to my partner and understand why I react to him in this particular way. I need to find a different way to express myself and understand what I feel to improve the process of communication.

How I can stop defending myself and how to accept that my partner might not want to talk with me about his feelings and thoughts? How I can help to not project the problems of the partner (about which he does not want to talk) in our relationship?