The big thing you're missing in all of this is the associated Marxism that is structural to the movement.

Let's take a girl. Her name is going to be Jenny.

Jenny is not an individual, Jenny is woman. Her identity as an individual doesn't matter.

Jenny gets married and has a child.

If Jenny stays at home to raise and nurture her child, she is "being oppressed by the patriarchy," and if she goes to get a job, she is a "strong woman."

For one, and for the continuation of human beings as a species, raising the next generation is an incredibly important job. Nurturing and being there is important and noble. Feminism makes this a negative- "Oh, she just pops out babies."

For two, why is it sooooo bad to be "oppressed by the patriarchy," by raising children, but you're a "strong woman" if you go get a career where (and you'll agree as a communist) you're being oppressed by the bourgeois class?

Either way, US society/culture pressures women into the workforce, so Mom sends her kids to school in the morning and gets home from work exhausted and doesn't have the attention to give to her children. I know when I was growing up if things weren't going well for any reason, I'd talk to my Mom as soon as I got home from school. Hell, I'm almost 30 and I call my Mom when I'm bummed out or need advice or whathaveyou, and that's largely because she was always there when I was growing up to nurture me and try her best to guide me.

Modern day, Moms are increasingly not around to support and raise their children in the ways needed because feminism dictates a woman is a failure if she is a stay-at-home-mom. Correlation doesn't mean causation, but there have been a lot more school shootings since the uptick in feminism and it leads me to at least guess that the break down in nurture/family structure might have something to do with it.