Can't believe I read a post that somewhat mirrors my life. I'm an overseas contractor too. Been doing this for the last 5 years. As a matter of fact I'm over here right now in the 'stan. I know where the both of you are coming from. I see your point and her point. Let me first say that the reason she sleeps a lot while you're home is from depression. I just went through that myself last time I was home. I sucks the life out of you. My wife is a single mom of two teenagers while I'm gone and yes, as you know it's very tough on them. There's been plenty of times when I came home after being come for months and after a day or two to get adjusted she's told me "done, your turn". I see your point too because on one hand in your mind you deserve to kick back and not do shit while your home. Hell, you've worked 84 hrs a weeks, so screw it, I'm off and not gonna do nothing but play around and enjoy life while she continues to take care of things. I've been guilty of doing this on more than a few occasions. This really makes things worse and makes the wife even more depressed. I'm not a marriage counselor but it might be a good idea to state the obvious here. Let her know you know what she does for your family while you're over. Also, remind her of the sacrifice you're making so your standard of living could be better. Suggest a compromise on the baby. No reason why you shouldn't get a chance to adjust back to stateside life for a few days by sleeping in and getting adjusted. But after that, you need to be taking care of your baby as well. Trade off and on with her on baby duties. No reason why either one of you should have a free ride just because you both are at home. On another note, she does need a hobby and friends to go out with. That's gotta be a priority. She's got to have an outlet to let off steam or somethings gonna blow. Plus don't forget each other. Find that babysitter and make sure you have at least one night a week for each other. Peace out brother and good luck.