What I choose to keep in mind is that this “kink adventure” as you call it may be roll play for some like you, and can be put-on and taken-off like so much Doctor Who cosplay. For others, it is far more ingrained in our personalities as they are expressed in our relationships. The real adventure is discovering how these characteristics will manifest in their relationship. So, yes, if you’re looking for relationship cosplay, by all means include some time when you can remove your long scarfs and put down the sci-fi toy screwdrivers for a day or two. If, however, you find yourself being drawn to a relationship where you will exert a more dominant version of yourself, turning that off is a bit counter-productive.