Omg your father is not sticking up for you from a man who constantly belittles insults and harasses his own daughter?? Ugh I wish he were different but I’m not gonna diss your daddy. And your bf threatening to quit his job and not pay bills if you stop giving him rides is manipulative bullshit.. He’s forcing you to continue to put up with his bad behavior and invalidating your autonomy and wishes, bulldozing over your boundaries. You need to get financially independent of this dude and then one day drive him to work and forget to pick him up. Man can ride a bike as transportation- he’s just lazy af. This dude isn’t long term, he’s Mr right now, we all had one relationship like that. Don’t stay with him cuz he ain’t gonna change no matter how much says he loves and cares for you, or says he does for you. His love is toxic- you do not fix, rescue or save a grown ass man. That’s his job. It’s not a woman’s duty to wait for them to change. So for every insult and criticism he throws your way, you take it and use it as fuel and motivation to patiently put together your exit plan and eff get out of this relationship. You are worth it, and you deserve better. And he knows it, that’s why he tries to tear you down all the time. If you really love him- do it from a distance and stop enabling his childish selfing toxic behaviors.