Piggy backing on first comment because I think this is really important OP, you sounds great But I can’t stress enough that if purity is this heavily present in your daughters life at the moment then I have to assume abstinence education is as well. Please do not let abstinence only education be the only thing you’re daughter hears. Sit her down and have a real conversation about sex and health, I know it’s uncomfortable but it’s crucial for children’s mental and physical health.

Continuing to say you are right on the dot with purity being bad for young girls. That’s where the in-depth talk comes in, because even if she doesn’t go to the ball, it seems like purity talk will always be present in her life. I also grew up getting forced to go to church and I legit thought condoms were a sin (or more so that anything other than having sex for babies is a sin). This type of sex education led my sister and I to be very confused and we’ve made so many mistakes and been hurt a lot because of it. Good luck op