You’re a total asshole. What are some of the good things he does for you and your family everyday? Does he work hard? Help provide a home? Care for your children? Think of the myriad things YOU have to do everyday and then try to remember your other half holding things down, too. You’re an asshole because instead of thinking of the good he does you came to Reddit to have strangers denigrate him and tell you how bad he is. Maybe you’re horrible to him and he couldn’t care less about our birthday anymore. If he’s so horrible why are you wasting five years with him? No wonder he’s not marrying you. You suck. Happy Birthday. Nice trying to make yourself out to be an angel for Reddit so you can get sympathy. YTA