Ok I'm actually at least a little on OP's side on this one. I was a SAHM and made the choice to send my kids to not the school that's closest to us so they could go into french immersion. We (husband and I) always knew that I wouldn't be a SAHM forever and once I was not, it has been tricky. I've had to turn down or not apply to certain jobs because I need to be able to drop them off. If my husband had made the decision unilaterally to apply, enroll, cancel services for our home, cancel MY gym membership I'd be getting a divorce too. It was an extra 30 minutes each way which means if in a couple years she ended up wanting to work she'd have to work around that. I understand doing everything you can for your kids but realistically it has to be a 2 parent choice. I'd divorce him too, but on the other hand there aren't a lot of excuses for her so I'd probably divorce her if I were him too.