AITA partner is upset that I left them on their own after surgery

You don't have to read their mind. You have to have an ounce of common sense. Your partner just had surgery for chrissakes! Clearly their coping with putting the kids to bed was only a topic of discussion to begin with because you said you were going out. It seems they didn't feel comfortable asking you to stay with home with them. Why, I wonder?

This isn't actually about you at all - they didn't have surgery to manipulate you. But you did demonstrate a complete lack of empathy and a pretty stupendous amount of selfishness. I hate to be harsh but you need to get over yourself and see your partner as a human being who you are supposed to love. It doesn't take a genius to know that they needed you. YTA.

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