Broke up in September for the final time, had been 7 or 8 breakups prior to that. We couldn’t agree on anything, she was extremely controlling, couldn’t be on her own which meant I couldn’t see my friends basically. Couldn’t have a conversation about the relationship at all, I tried for as long as I could but she had young kids, we hadn’t seen each other for a few weeks because we had just been constantly fighting. I made sure we never argued when she had her kids. She said she didn’t want to see me when she had the kids because it was too much pressure on her. I agreed. She then decided that I should be there when the kids were there and I said not until this relationship improves because I can’t be in and out of her and her kids’ lives because it wasn’t fair on them. So basically ended because we couldn’t agree on how the relationship should be and she made me feel bad for having any kind of life outside of her. I tried to come to some kind of compromise but when you have to literally explain what compromise means to someone you’re never going to agree on anything. It hurt when it ended and still does but that relationship was making me ill and made me realise I have codependency issues. I think about her every day and still have those well what if I’d done this or that it might have improved but I know that’s just low self esteem telling me that I won’t find anyone else that will make me feel how she did when it was good.