I am a bigger girl (200lbs) but I work out and am very active. Do guys really care that I have a belly and some stretch marks?

No men do not care, do they prefer women without them yes but men do not care. What is more of a concern besides your stretch marks is your attitude towards him. Men would simply tolerate less from a women who does not exactly suit there preferences

I am a 100 percent correct about this. Is there a man you are interested in. Talk to him, ask for a date or command it politely and if you sense he might be embarrassed to be seen with you.

Say that you can be like a sneaky link and we can spend time with each-other somewhere that you feel most comfortable at it could be anywhere

Then make sure to exchange numbers or contacts somehow or give him your number with a note attach or later text him

I’m not trying to hook up with you., I want your attention and maybe later when we are really comfortable with each other we can be something very casual

I’m pretty sure this will have a low fail rate.

Understand that men like the company of a woman of a girl basically, her presence is a ease to the mind. A woman’s body no matter size or color is entertaining

But men still have preferences which is more of a lust and ego type thing

The only reason a man wants a hotter woman than you is it would feed his ego to get with her

But men can develop lust for any women if she behaves in a manner warrant of it. But men want to have sex anytime the urge arises.

Which is often like the need to go pee. And you are the woman available to him yo satisfy his urges.

No matter if he super attracted to you or not.

Looks fade in the end. What last is the relationship at hand that was built

And every guy is a pervert meaning you can say “I’m working out constantly and trying to get in better shape, would you be open to taking my measurements every now and then.

And he could be like yeah basically.

Where I’m trying to get at, do you think a Onlyfans girl could compare to a woman like you? If you behave perfectly to what I was describing above basically.

Be a onlyman’s girl

Meaning fully submit and or commit yourself to said man you are interested in

Apparently women who are sexually active like to become a guy toy basically

But that is not what I’m saying to be

I’m saying to understand the dynamics of you and him

Men that are able to get a woman to be his toy they had to “perform” like hell and so on and be a 10 or highly attractive or have a lot of money

And the reason why the wife material and non wife material exist amongst men

Is honestly because of the broken illusion of a women being the one and only for a man’s love

It’s not true if she already belonged to someone else for a night or whatever. Or even like to entertain other men. A guy would just look like a loser trying to take her seriously and trying to wife her and trying to be madly in love with her

The whole saying belong to the streets or belong to the world Is in regard to what I just described

I forgot what else I was going to say but lastly

Oh wait I remember

Women are more pragmatic and realist in a sense when it comes to love or realtionships

And men are more naive and romantics to when it comes to realtionships

There is a saying that I heard women say a lot is for men to take off there “rose colored glasses”

Also there is this other saying

“There is no perfect woman or the ONE, find a woman and make her the ONE for you.”

Which is a saying that is kind of hopeful to hear a bit

I could have committed to a single mother with 2 kids who In her past was a hooker and was pimp by her baby daddy basically and she is 19 and idk how old her kids were but they were both able to walk and talk

She made advances towards me, but I didn’t want to be responsible for like breaking her heart or making her think a possibility of love is possible

But I would have treated her better then the men before. And during.

She was my sister roommate and she gave a guy a STD

Basically I’m saying

Your flaws are not as drastic or bad as hers

I imagine making her a “honest woman” because she was free spirited and I really enjoyed her and like her for her. She also was getting into the anime fairy tail and so on

And like——

I really just don’t get it. Many women have high body counts why and how? And what’s there end goal?

Single forever?

I get many women don’t want to be tied down

But I don’t get as a man how it’s okay to basically use a woman for sex

You could call it dating and so on but you being used for sex if marriage did not become the outcome

I get it’s outdated my thinking

But after watching grey anatomy and some other shows

I kind of understand women thought process on being very promiscuous

Which is sum up as women get horny to and want sex.

But a lot of women don’t even cum during sex so I can’t help but think women are having sex mostly because the guy they like desires it and she wants him and she likes all the emotions swirling around in her

And is why sex is seen as this emotional spiritual thing. And why it is reference is being intimate with a person

Which I can understand it being seen that way

But a man’s climax is really not all about sexual pleasure more so a need and desire for sex not necessarily a want.

I’m right about that because men will fuck anything that moves basically

And a promiscuous women will almost never get with a average man for sex because she is horny or just need to or want to get off

Maybe it’s because she has a lot of options and she aims to go with the best option

But I seen promiscuous sex stories from women Reddit profiles and it’s really mind boggling

Women and girls are just really and seriously odd creatures

In a sense that a Queen would selfishly bring her kingdom to ruins

But a king always will try to bring its kingdom to greatness

I was generally speaking but to women and people that disagree with my generalizations

How do people individualistic to the reality I describe stand out and be seen?

Since they don’t it’s as if they don’t exist

And men hold out bout unicorns all the time but end up as virgin losers

So either way it’s not in a man’s best interest to believe in the outliers of women that exist apparently

And if I get any negativity I’m just probably going to go MGTW and seriously just wait till I’m 30 and fit and more attractive and have a lot of money and not sexually or socially naive or dumb

To try my hand at love and sex again

But I wanted love now and sex now and I could if had sex but I cared more about finding love versus lust but it was a bad move I guess

But I’m trying to understand how best to navigate in this world As a man

I feel like I really have to do a lot to be love and seen as a man and a viable mate for a women for casual or something serious or long term

Maybe it’s mens fault

The attention I would give to a women is meaningless essentially because there is so many other men giving her attention

So how do I rise above that and actual be seen as something more to her as a man or whatever

And not just something for her to simply escape boredom for a while

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