He doesn’t know what he wants? Pls help

Small update: we’ve been trying to see eachother and he said that once he’s back from this base thing that we’d meet up. We were supposed to see eachother today but he had issues with his truck so he wouldn’t be able to make the extra drive. (I’m not soley putting the visit on him, but he offered to drive here to see me).

He keeps saying that he wants to talk to me and (like I said before) he wants a year for me to decide on an answer.

He said that he wants to kiss me and stuff, but that he still doesn’t know what he wants. I don’t know how to act around him without feeling like I’m gonna push him away. We would flirt and talk sweet to eachother and other things up until last week. It’s hard to read his tone with just his texts so I asked him if we could just talk about our feelings and stuff in person so I’d be able to full understand how he means something.

Reading all of y’all’s replies, I do understand that my writing makes it seem like I’m being ridiculously attached. I’ve given him his space like he asks and I’ve been respectful towards him with all of his replies. I told him my feelings and so I hope he understands where I’m coming from.

He goes out of his way to message me and calls me still so that’s why I turned to reddit. I thought we were getting better because of some of the things he’d say but as soon as I say something sweet it’s back to him telling me he doesn’t know what he wants.

I asked him that since he’s telling me to essentially wait for him, if he was planning on seeing other people so I knew what to expect. I told him that I won’t be if that’s the case and he said that he didn’t know if he would. I just asked him to let me know and he told me that he’s not going to let anyone get close to him. Even me.

I’m too tired of crying over him to go through a situationship. I’m not asking him to marry me or get into a relationship with me but after a month of us talking we decided that we were strictly only talking to eachother and that he wanted to be with me. And now I guess he’s changed his stance after my feelings really grew for him.

Sorry this is just kinda my rant

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