First you complement bomb him for your safety. “It’s been amazing spending time with you recently. The chemistry is so natural between us. I feel ___(however you feel when you’re together_. The future you’ve painted so far sounds great and I’d like to discuss it further with you. I can’t in good conscious say yes officially to you at this time, but let’s figure this out!”

Now, you have to ask tons of questions to see if not only your values align but your vision of a good future aligns too. Do nottttt give too much of your values away at this time. Always ask him first. We want to minimize his ability to gaslight you.

I suggest you search like a madwoman all the tips for long lasting relationships and center your questions around that. Marriage is good for women. Don’t forget that it is our security and that through it, the man should be painting a life worth of your fertility and our youth. He has to closely guard your radiance and the right man will never do anything to destroy it.

It is a little creepy since he’s 33. But as someone about to be 33, I’m wiser than 19, but I’m the same old soul as then. It’s creepy because you’re a teenager, but at the same time, it doesn’t have to be. Maybe you guys are a match made in heaven and he perfectly aligns with you. I’ve seen 18 year age gaps work before. It’s weird to me but obviously works for them.

Anyways, if you’re not feeling him the deeper you get, girl, try gently to ruin whatever pedestal he has you on with a great big smile on your face. Begin to act without grace. Be rude to the waiter. Litter. Shoot. Idk. I’ve never had to let down anyone dangerous, but provider men (are also a touch predator because they have to be to be high value men able to protect women), and that takes a sensitive hand.

Anyways, keep your wits about you. Good luck!!