I would not get annoyed. In fact I have preferred to lead the relationship and deeply appreciated her loyally following me which is anathema to modern feminist values.

My pursuit of my wife in the early 1980s became a microcosm of our lives together that followed. She agreed to follow and marry me. That required her to drop her successful career as a foreign service officer for another country; (she was working at one of that country's consulates in the U.S.).

She subsequently followed me to my assignments in Hawaii, Bangkok, Beijing (twice) and grad school, squeezing out busy-jobs where she could. None of her subsequent jobs in my trail offered close to the prestige of the career she left for me, though she did build a flexible investment side-hustle as a condo landlord.

Against that, do you really think it was a bad thing that the tone was set for our relationship from the start by me paying for everything even though she had a salary?

Understand I am six decades old and have a very different set of values than many on this list. And don't get me started on my foreign wife whose values are about as anti-feminist as you can imagine.

A little story: In the mid 1990s I was a mid-grade officer. I introduced my wife to a senior officer's wife referring to her as "my girl." The senior officer's wife voiced her disapproval of my terminology, implying that I was referring to my wife was some kind of subservient geisha. Women have a very different way of confrontation than men, but I still remember my wife making it clear that she was my girl, and I was her man, and she didn't appreciate any outsider who thought to recharacterize our relationship.