Mmm, now this is a question I'll have fun answering. :) In short, yes, I do prefer to 'take the lead', and the big answer as to why that is seems to boil down to 'I want to get what I want.' And it's a strategy I've usually had great success with!
When approaching a potential new partner, I tend to look for signs beforehand. The 'mating signal', whatever that is. I have no issues escalating this to gauge their interest with a flirty comment, a look, an nonthreatening touch... if there is positive reciprocation, I am very blunt. "Hey, can I get your number?" "Do you wanna come home with me tonight?" "We should hang out sometime. I have the place to myself this weekend." I find a lot of the time, the guys I am attracted to are a bit on the shy side, and I've heard the 'I have no idea how to talk to girls' more times than I can count from casual sexy friends and boyfriends. And girls... yeah, let's just say I RARELY have had a girl come on to me in any obvious way. So I've learned, as someone with a high sex drive, that the only reliable way of learning whether or not someone is into me, and thusly increasing my chances of sex, is to straight up tell them that I am into them.
In a relationship... I consider myself a switch. I'm not deeply into BDSM, but I love how it provides a framework for a dynamic that has all kinds of exciting possibilities. As much as I love (and need) for my partner to aggressively show me he wants me sometimes, there are other times that I just want to have my way with him. Tell him what to do. Have sex my way. Show him who's boss, basically. I have no issue finding sexy ways to issue commands. I also like 'objectifying' him (in a fun, sexy way!) and 'using' him and all that good shit that tends to seem male-centric in the movies. I tell him to strip for me or pull his cock out so I can look at it/touch it/fondle it etc. Umm, way too much gory detail in that particular realm, but let's just say I enjoy the variety that taking the reins provides.
In a sort of openly social setting with my s/o, no sex involved, I like to think we present to the world as mainly egalitarian, but I do, on occasion, like to subvert gender norms and whatnot. I know my s/o finds it kind of amusing when I pull out his chair for him, or open the car door for him, or lead him by the hand when we walk together, or give him a hearty smack on the ass. I like to sort of think that I can show the world that I 'own' him (again, in a playful and consensual manner) and that I'll 'protect' him if necessary.
My sexuality is kind of wonky, I'm not gonna lie. And I'm definitely cis, but... I feel like a lot of supposed gender norms, stuff that evo-psych folk like to howl and scream about, is really just a social construct. I have never felt the impetus to be LESS sexually aggressive, other than social pressure not to be a 'slut', and even that really was never a good enough answer for me. I just want sex. I want sexy sex, because life is way too damn short to not enjoy something that's so lovely to it's fullest. A lot of common memes about women and sex- that we need a strong, dominant, confident guy, that seeing a man in a submissive or even feminine role is a surefire way to make us sick with revulsion, that we have a naturally lower sex drive due to not having to 'spread our seed' or what the fuck ever, amongst many others- has simply not been accurate for me. I just see my sexual dominance/leadership as a necessary step to ensure my sexual satisfaction, I mean if I just waited around for attractive and enthusiastic partners to fall into my lap it would be pretty slim pickings and that just won't do. I'm not sure I'd say I 'prefer' to make a move, but I definitely don't mind it. If someone I want makes the first move, it can be pretty amazing, but I don't expect them to.