I dated a guy who may have bpd but no diagnosis. It was awful. I loved him, or I guess maybe was infatuated. Then we sort of drifted apart and started fighting. He was controlling and very jealous, never wanted me to talk to guys and that was all I got along with because I'm sort of a tomboy. Right now I rather spar/grapple with a guy than sleep with him for example. I like to fish and crab, don't wear makeup anymore as I apply it the same way a guy who never did it before anyway, I even sort of look like a guy. Anyway, we were both horrible to each other by the time it ended. Lying, he gaslit and would continue to gaslight me to this day. Has an "uncanny" ability to find things, to the point it seems like he's hiding it, I think it's a mix of both. Would say things and then lie about it. Got to the point I called 911 and went to a mental hospital. I was treated like I was criminally insane and continue to be to this day, by everyone. Everyone is mocking, avoiding me, and gaslighting me. As if he doesn't have his own issues too and as if he ever loved me. I was the one who was in love, but I get treated like he could do no wrong and it was ALL me.

For the love of fuck, don't let someone move in until you KNOW them, or at all and if they aren't trying to help themselves at all, break up and get out, before you get trashed to the town, or even the world and you CAN'T recover ever again. Sometimes you don't get another chance if you ignore the red flags because you love them. BPD's can love and be loved, but if they don't care about you at all, and aren't trying to be helped, just LEAVE.