Appreciate the reply. When I say passion, I mean showing me verbally and physically that they are undoubtedly into me. starfish sex,very little compliments. Like I said in the original post, I don't get sexy texts, nudes, etc. So as far as the communication aspect, I mean, it's kind of hard to say, "Hey, tell me you want me more." Saying that kind of defeats the purpose. I want it to be organic and natural; I don't want her saying stuff just to make me feel better if she doesn't really mean it.

Sometimes people get more pleasure by focusing on their partner rather than themselves.

I do this, I am absolutely a giver when it comes to sex, I love to make my girl feel amazing. But when that is never reciprocated, it doesn't make me feel good. One of my long term GFs loved me giving her head and frequently requested it, yet only gave me one BJ when very drunk, and never, and i mean never, touched my dick unless i put her hand there, and even then she would pull it away after a few seconds.

the fact that you bring up how many women you've slept with, and then subsequently try to defend that number, indicates you're worried about being judged about it.

I mean, yeah, partly. But I don't want to have sex with more girls to brag to my buddy about the number. I don't even want to raise my number per se. I just feel like I haven't experienced the passion that seems to come naturally with many other people and their relationships, that's why I feel unfulfilled, not the number of girls I've been with.

Sharing these details in your life will allow you to improve the intimacy you have with a partner. It'll allow you to feel safer and more comfortable in a relationship, and in the bedroom. I can pretty much guarantee your sex life will improve if it's with someone you achieve that level of comfort with.

I did share that I felt this way, although in more tactful terms, with one of my longterm GFs, she broke up with me 2 weeks later.