Are you ever afraid of who you become when dating?

Be me, get into a serious relationship, fall way too hard. Try and be a good person/bf/friend and think you’re smashing it. Gf blind sides you one day and breaks up with you and you’re literally distraught. One year later look back and realise you were using her as a crutch because your mental health was in the dumps. I was also overbearing and had no life to speak of outside of her and put her on a pedestal because I thought she was waaaay out of my league and I was scared of losing her.

Work on myself and pull myself out of deep dark depths of depression, have a great job and can see clear improvement in my skills, bright future and overall better person. People comment about how charismatic I am and I make fast friends and surprisingly, manage to keep them. But now completely stoic (in all the bad ways), avoid any and all commitment (not just in romantic life), and cannot open up to anyone :)

I’ve got a lot of work to do but it’s one day at a time and during Covid it’s been awful but it’s a good thing I’m still young.

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