The BDSM community makes me angry sometimes

For some reason, there are people who find our traditional household vulgar.

That's because you do not have a traditional household. If you time traveled back to the 1950's, you would be considered a sexual pervert. You might even be committed to a mental institution, as this behavior was considered extremely deviant at the time.

The fact that my husband works, I stay home and cook, bake, clean, sew, and dote upon my husband, kids, and home is troublesome.

That's not the problem I have. The problem I have is that you do these things not because they're practical, but because you have a sexual fetish. My problem is that you are grooming your daughters to take part in your fetish. You're not grooming your daughters to have a good and fulfilling life, you're grooming them to live life based on your own sexual desires.

To that I say to you that what goes on in my bedroom is none of your, or my children's, business. Anything outside of the bedroom? They see kind and respectful, loving parents. Do other kinksters not understand the idea of discretion? Why do we assume those into needle play know not to beat their children but we don't?

Your entire lifestyle revolves around your fetish. You cannot keep it from your children because your fetish simply extends beyond the bedroom.

Why, in your world, does the fact that I'm a stay at home mom (who is kinky with my husband) make you negatively assume about my political standing, my self worth, my opinion on spanking our kids (we don't, btw), and my intelligence as a woman, mother, wife, and slave?

Yeah, this isn't about you being a stay at home mom, lady. This is about the fact that your children are seeing you live your 24/7 slave fetish and there is absolutely no separation for you between fetishism and day to day life.

To lump all of a niche kink into one umbrella based on two example is pretty shitty, you must admit. What if we lumped all men into one umbrella based on a few of the rapists or molesters? That'd feel pretty awful I would imagine.

That is a false comparison. If there were a certain subset of men who had sexual fetishes for being rapists and molesters, I would accurately call them rapists and molesters. You have a sexual fetish for being a second class citizen and you are allowing that fetish to completely run your life. You are grooming your children to play along with your sexual fetish, and because your fetish blends well with mainstream society, it's very easy for you to do.

Stepford Wife and Bimboificaton are rare. Rarely sought after and rarely done. Even so, who cares?

If you were incapable of making children with your body or adopting them with your money, I probably would not care.

A brainless, spineless, cake-toting, apron-wearing Stepford Wife isn't sexy, or practical.

They also never fucking existed. They were a fantasy even back then.

The fact that you claim to know your grandmother's sexual experience unnerves me a little

My mother told me about sex when I was a child. She included what her mother had told her about sex. My grandmother only knew how to have sex in one position, and she hadn't known he had a clitoris until she had already had children. She didn't have her first orgasm until she was nearing menopause.

You seem very angry over hypothetical unborn children when there are many horror stories of children's abuse happening in non-kinky households right now, probably in your own neighborhood.

Yeah, and abusive men from those households hold the same views on women and sex that you do, albeit to a much lesser degree.

If you'd like to make an impact, may I suggest doing something positive with your time like volunteering at a local shelter for abused women and children.

I care about abused children, not women. My mother was abused when I was growing up. In my experience, women just enjoy getting beaten up, and they don't really care about what happens to their kids in the process.

There are many horrible situations out there. Finger pointing, name calling, and judgement are not the solutions.

I just want you to keep it in the fucking bedroom. Leave your children out of it.

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