I'm so sorry you had that experience. That sounds horrible, and it must have been really hard to have people simply avoid you. It's for that reason he doesn't want anyone to know about it - and it's a reason I fully understand and agree with. I'm also on the 'we should keep it a secret ship'.

I know I shouldn't have told anyone. I feel terrible about it, and I wish I could take it back. But at the time, before we'd had any conversations about it and his diagnosis wasn't even confirmed, I was freaking out. I was trying to understand what it meant, and more than anything, I was trying to help him come to terms with it. I already knew she had an uncle with MS, and when I approached her it was half because I wanted to talk, and half because I knew her uncle was still very healthy and active and could be a good contact for my partner.

I was just trying to cope with it the best I could but it was all so long ago that I'm not even sure she does know whether he even got diagnosed or not. I might scroll back up through our messages to try and find an indicator of whether she actually knows or just knows I was suspecting something.