to me it almost reads like you are looking for friends to supply entertainment or one person to meet all of your "friendship needs."

I am 30, married with two kids. I got married and had kids long before the majority of my school friends and the friends I have who do have kids mostly have one and it was not on purpose they aren't with the dad or just don't actually view motherhood as something they really wanted. So i relate to friendships fading over the years. Now my friends who are having kids on purpose are having kids I'm getting more people back but their kids are younger and kind of only come to me when they want advice. 90% of my conversations start with "Hi lawyerlady how are you? I've got a question, do you have a second..." So I feel a bit like they are using me. so these are acquaintances. Not friends. My grandmother used to say "if you need more than one hand to count your friends, you must be very lonely."

Ive Never kept big social circles. I have 5 people Id consider friends they aren't friends with each other. I have one on on friendships with each of them. Two live interstate and I see maybe once every couple of years. I have two other friends I see infrequently but are the kind of OLD friends that I could call for anything (but rarely socially call) and I see them intermittently but they feel like family, (one moreso since she had a kid). and one I speak to almost daily.

My best friend is my husband. That is the person who it is important that i share interests and life philosophies with. I have a very close relationship with my mother and I have one good friend who also got married and has two young kids she planned and wanted. So we relate on that level. Do we always agree? absolutely not. Does she have interests that vary WILDLY from mine? Yes. We come from different cultural backgrounds, she is a SAHM mum who uses daycare, while i am adamantly against daycare for my kids. She eats 100% organic, I eat healthy but find organic food to be a total scam. I am passionate about sending my kids to private school and not changing their school until they graduate. She is very casual about schooling has no plans as yet but does think she will move them around a few times. point being: we have very different life perspectives. but that is what makes our friendship interesting. I personally dont want to be friends with myself. I dont want to share every interest with someone, I love my discussions with my friend because she opens up my world to things SHE is interested in and I do the same for her. Sometimes she bores me and sometimes I bore her. But friendship is more than always entertaining one another.