I can see you have deleted your post and reply so I don't know if you'll even see this...but;

You've been dealt a bad hand for sure; but you can't dwell on it or things will never improve. Only you can make the most of what you have to offer - and allowing yourself to be bitter about your current situation will consume any ideas of bettering it. Tackle each of these things one at a time. As far as work goes - you don't need to be a stockbroker or a CEO. There are labour intensive jobs that pay well; and if you have the patience and confidence to do it; there's always the option of training. Look at what suits you. If you need to move cities, then move cities. It doesn't sound like there's anything tying you to your current place.

On the orphan / father front - don't give him a second thought. You can't choose your parents or the circumstances that brought you into the world - so don't allow that to impact your life today. Of course, its better to have a good rolemodel helping you through your childhood - but there are plenty of people have two shitty parents who are both still around and only make matters worse for their children. Having a parent around doesn't automatically mean your life would have been better.

On the minor autism / learning challenges you face - most employers would take someone motivated and willing over someone lazy and smart. You can stand out simply by wanting to improve your standing in life. The more you practise and the more you learn - the better you become - irrespective of the difficulties you face; so the key is to keep getting back up when you take a knock.

Dating will fall into place when you sort your own life out. You need to be ready to date; both mentally and physically. If you're facing knockbacks on both fronts then it will be very demoralising and demotivating. Focus on improving yourself first before you turn to dating. You need to value yourself before others will.