I recently switched from identifying as bi to lesbian (because I am no longer attracted to men). Sometimes it feels like I'm lying because I have all this sexual and romantic history with men, but I feel like if I keep telling people I'm bi I'll end up alone because no woman will ever want to date me and I do definitely want a woman now. I know that's messed up but that is how I'm made to feel... that bi women inevitably end up with men and I don't want that.

How would you feel if someone told you they were lesbian and they told you they used to be bi and do have history with men? Is that ok? Would you prefer they just said they were bi but selectively rejected all men? I can't figure out what to do and how to identify....