So here’s the thing. It’s not about seeming uninterested. Or being a jerk.

What we have to understand is that to women most guys are easy. Especially beautiful women. And so they have some mechanisms by which they sort out the better vs the worse. One of those mechanisms is that they figure out if you have the power to walk away and be totally fine.

The reason making a big show of things and bringing flowers and giving all this attention presents obstacles is you’re essentially saying to the woman “you already got me” and what that says to her is well maybe if I got this guy wrapped around my finger who’s to say I can’t have a better guy?

And it’s easy to think that’s unreasonable but in a way we may not like to admit there’s a kind of logic to it. The trick is to extend your kindnesses in such a manner that they understand that you have no problem moving on if they don’t seem serious. The point is that they’ll take advantage of the free dinners and concerts up to a certain point. Nobody can keep taking and feeling good about it especially when they know they’re not serious about you.

So save your money. Or at least use it intelligently. I’m not demonizing women. Guys have just as much of a streak of illogical dating patterns whether we realize it or not. But there’s always a logic to it. Start putting the ball in their court. Go out on a date. When the dates over make it clear ya wanna see them again. Maybe send a text and say you look forward to the next date. And then do no more. If a week passes and you don’t hear from them go on a date with someone else or if there’s nobody else, just don’t text. If later they accuse you of ghosting or whatever say I expressed I was interested and you never texted me again. I could just as well have said you ghosted me because if you’d have messaged I’d have answered.

The point is you’ll find out if they’re actually interested in you. You’ve expressed your interest. If they’re really interested in you they won’t let a week pass without contacting you. Because they find you exciting. It also gives the impression you have other things going on in life and you’re too busy to always text which in your case is true. And that’s good because they don’t wanna feel like they’re the only thing you got going for you. And if they’re not interested they won’t text. You shouldn’t always have to be keeping the flame alive in them. Girls always talk about wanting someone who is passionate for them? Well don’t you want the same thing? It’s just playing the game as you’ve mentioned.

All in all I wouldn’t worry too much about it. Just have fun and you’ll do alright.