Do you see how when I responded originally I made sure to highlight that there are lots of different possibilities and we might never be able to know which one is exactly right. That's nuanced, it acknowledges that not only might I be mistaken, but that there might not be a perfect answer at all.

And in your reply here you go on in length about how you want to know the truth or what's right. You focus on this one idea, and how other people are failing to live up to the standards you've set. And the only other possibility is that you're wrong about it.

I don't think you're looking for nuance, I think you're looking for complexity. You want lots of data and well reasoned arguments and a good explanation, and you think that's how people find the "truth".

But I think you need to accept that there's some things that are just unknowable. When we accept that our beliefs might be right or might be wrong, and we can't tell yet, but we're just going to do what seems right, that's a nuanced approach to life. It's accepting that there are subtle shades of difference, but that we can only do one thing at a time. And maybe we can't give a well reasoned and complex explanation, but that's not required to have a nuanced view of life.

Ultimately I think a lot of people are just like you:

I didn't really make a long detailed post because I was more interested in seeing if anyone would actually engage with the idea at a base level before going into the hows and whys of it. A little lazy on my part

We don't try to dig in to every little choice, we don't explain ourselves fully to strangers, we don't put in the effort when the outcome isn't clear. We don't fully commit because we recognize that the future is uncertain and nuanced.

When you see people unwilling to commit to complexity and explanation what you're seeing is them accepting the nuance in life. And they don't have to prove themselves to you. The same way you don't have to prove yourself to me. Nuance is just something that's hard to detect, and we should give people credit for being more discerning and more complex than we can see.