You weren't in love with her. You were in love with the fantasy of being with her.

I've already conceded that in the beginning, I was in fact in love with the idea of her. What I found out however is that the more time I got to spend with her, the smaller that gap became between the idea I had of her, and the real her. Nothing she said or did made me like the real her less, until she told me she was already seeing someone.

While those feelings were strong, they weren't based on anything real.

They absolutely were based on reality, once I got to meet her.

And yes those feelings can and will cause you pain and you will have to process that, but you will also have to move on.

I believe I've already mentioned in the post that I have. And I agree.

Your friendship that you have with her is based far more on a real idea than your feelings for love you say you had for her.

Again I agree. The real issue at hand however is if I can really be honest friends with her if I have to intentionally hide the way that I used to feel about her in order to maintain the friendship. The way that I felt about her was imaginary before we meet, but it was in large part real once I had gotten to know her.