I don't mind taking shit from posters-that is why I posted! I don't want to take shit In an effort to be brief and focused, and since the actual living situation was ending, I neglected to include details about the problems with her being there. The practical support was not fulfilled. I know it sounds like I'm being unreasonable but cleanliness was a real problem that her mother, my mother and others have spoken to her about- without it changing. My family won't press further but in the past six months I have been asked to speak with her about it. I didn't, because I understand it is not my job and because I thought it should be the job of one of her children. Grandma takes her own dog out and can, but is better off if she can get help. And was supposed to have someone living there to take care of morning and evening, so not really fair to say my grandma should get rid of her companion because that person isn't fulfilling the understood role. She really isn't there to do it most of the time. I agree that her children should be more responsible. My mom does all of my Grandma's finances and manages her health. My other living aunt is this cousin's mother and has said she will not help with this situation even though she thinks her daughter should move out too. My two uncles just keep leaning on my mom to do the work. She is already handling my recently deceased aunt's estate with one of my uncles. So honestly it is hard to shove this on my mom, too. As I said, I'm not going to sell her stuff. Sorry for the poor humor attempt.