Cyber-bullying | Monica Lewinsky Speaks Out: "Public shaming as a blood sport has to stop," says Monica Lewinsky. In 1998, she said “I was Patient Zero of losing a personal reputation on a global scale almost instantaneously.”

When i first heard the TED talk i had great worst for her. Well I still do, but as I've thought about the talk on over the last week I've realized the talk is perpetuating almost the same problem she's talking about. Hear me out.

I really don't think people cared that much about what she did, ever. People understand she was a young girl and did something stupid. Bill did something stupid. But think about if this happened all over again. No. Think if this happened even 10 years before it did, before the internet. I don't think it would have been much less talked about in the country. Why? Because it's just a topic of conversation. There are petiole that set out to shame others, but who are these people really? The rest of us don't really care. The Republicans at the time didn't even care, it was just an opportunity to take Clinton down.

What I'm saying is, this is all just an example of media popularity making topics seem larger than they really are. Even when people become internet famous in a positive light it does something to their psyche that is where, abnormal feeling. Remember that Kony 2012 film maker and how he had that crazy sidewalk breakdown? I remember reading about how human mind react adversely to sudden rises in fame and popularity.

What I'm trying to say is, while she was bullied and scrutinized, her situation is simply one that seems like a bigger deal in her mind than it probably was. People didn't really care about making fun of her. But when she goes outside in the world and is recognized it feels weird and embarrassing.

We should still listen to what she has to say, but understand how the media and the internet make things appear larger than they really are. We gossip about things that are unimportant and don't really care about to fill our time in conversations. We take opportunities to make jokes. Maybe we shouldn't, but those conversations were never important to begin with. They were just something to talk about. And when the presdient is involved, we all love to talk about the most unimportant things done by important people.

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