So you have a type. How long did your ex husband abuse her before you realized she was being abused? Will it take as long this time as well? Maybe it will take longer because you seem to be ignoring the massive red flags screaming in your face. There is no reason for any of your partners to critique your daughters body. The fact you were making excuses because your life would be easier if she just got over how uncomfortable he makes her is disgusting. You failed her with your ex husband and you’re failing her again. It’s truly shameful. I hope she walks away and goes no contact. She’d be safer away from you, since you’re the common link of all the abuse of men in her life.