Every day was like walking on eggshells. I always wondered what her next outburst was going to be.

Oh wow. This hits close to home. We've been together almost 10 years and are 7 years married now, have two wonderful kids I love dearly, but our relationship has been on a downhill slide for a long time.

Same story - crazy fits of anger over minor things, generally my fault, but often about things at work or whatever else. She spends an amazing time each day just getting extremely upset about stuff - in fact, she seems to actively look for things to make her angry or sad. The tendency has always been there, but I blamed it on difficult circumstances. Over time I've realised it doesn't matter, she'll always have some reason to complain or become aggressive.

Last summer brought me to the edge, when she spent 2 weeks at her parents' place and I decided to surprise her by renovating our awful bedroom (we'd discussed it before, but never found the time). I spent a week slaving away in the heat, ripping out old flooring, painting the walls, dragging stuff in and out and in again. She returned and went into full-on psycho rage mode for about 2 days without pause because, apparently, I had done absolutely everything wrong.

Trying to talk this over has proven impossible. Of course, her constantly being angry is my fault, and my complaining about it proves it, and she's the victim. It just goes in circles. I'm bringing home most of the family income and spend very little on myself. I haven't cheated on her ever. I'm doing housework and taking care of the kids when I'm not in the office. I basically worked myself to death taking care of her 24 hours a day when she was severely ill years ago. She got her current job, like those before, because I spent many hours helping with her CV and application letters and coaching her for interviews and making sure she actually sends of the damn application instead of putting it off forever. But none of that matters - it's all irrelevant because I lost one of the kids' socks in kindergarten or some genocide-level crime like that, and I'm generally disrespecting her.

Without kids, I'd have filed for divorce years ago. But right now, my assessment is that all of us are better off trying to keep this together for the time being. That may change though.