I don't think I really can leave the religion as of now

It sucks not to have your new beliefs entirely supported by family. But I want to say your only responsibility is being true to yourself. You may have to play by their rules now, but you don't have to feel guilty for your heart not being in it. I would have saved myself a lot of grief if I wouldn't've faulted myself for what was outside of my control.

Thankfully, I'm not in a situation currently where I'm forced to do much in terms of religion. But in terms of all the little things I still have to hear, it's helped me to change my mindset about it. In choosing to see it as good intentioned and reflective of traditional values, it frees me from constantly worrying about whether they are trying to convert me.

I still know that might be the case logically, but instead of getting upset, I'm able to realize my folks' limitations and have some emotional distance.

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