I'm currently reading Fate of the Fallen by Ian Irvine. I am about halfway through. (Spoilers.) I don't know if it will improve or not, but I feel like the author is a good example of not knowing women. One of the main characters, Maelys, has a lot of depth and she's interesting, but the author puts a lot of focus on her large breasts. Like a lot. It's a detail that is brought up quite frequently. Reads a bit like a pre-teen obsessed with boobs. Even my fiance commented, "Well, we can tell he's a boob man!"
Not only that, but the... "courtship" between Maelys and Nish is weird. Maelys' goal is to have a baby with Nish to save her family, and she blindly goes about trying to have sex with Nish to complete this task. I can get behind that plot device. I can. But at this point in the book, Maelys seems to be expressing a love interest towards Nish, and I seriously don't get how or why. He has literally done nothing but treat her like shit and care only about himself, yet the author is writing Maelys to basically throw herself at Nish, "big breasts" first, both out of duty to her family AND some weird love interest that I feel is unfounded and makes zero sense.
I don't think he gets women at all. I don't understand how Maelys could form any romantic thoughts about a guy that snaps at her, flat out rejects her advances, and has even left her to die. It makes zero sense. I think the author is channeling what he wants in a woman into his character - a girl who has large breasts and never stops chasing after the man and trying to have sex with him.
Oh, and to top it off, it seems like every time Nish encounters a pretty woman, she's wanting to bang him. He always turns them down, but it seems to be a constant theme in this book. Every time there's a woman around Nish, she wants to boink him; sometimes it's just a subtle mention of her eyes giving him "the look". Eh, that's fantasy, I guess!
(I will say that even though I find Maelys is a sex-fiend 50% of the time, the other 50% of the book she is fighting tooth-and-nail and proving to be a stronger character than Nish, so I will give the author that much. She's a good character. I just think he doesn't get women and romance when combined!)