Have you ever had a bad babysitter and how did you know it was time to get your kid out of there?

Not a babysitter but a preschool. This was a chiristan preschool across the street from my house that would take kids 2-4 years old. I had both of my kids enrolled, they were 2 and 3 years old at the time. One day when I went to drop off my son at the preschool as we were crossing the street and approaching the preschool my son started screaming and crying becuase he didn't want to go to the preschool. I found it strange because he was always so excited to go to preschool and then all of a sudden he had this fear of going to school. At the beginning of this I assumed that he was just having a few bad days and I persisted and still took him in. I hung out with my son for about 15 minutes and he calmed down, then I left. This kept happening for a few days then I started getting suscpicious about why was he crying bloody murder and seemed so scared of going to school. I then just stopped taking him becuase things just didn't seem right. He had a speech delay at the time and couldn't tell me anything about what was going on. The lead teacher told me that she didn't understant why was he acting that way because everything seemed normal to her aside from him crying. Also, the week before all of this drama started he had come home with scratches and red marks on his face. The teacher told me that he and a girl in the class were fighting. I didn't like it, but I thought that maybe it was just a one time thing with a kid in the class.

Fast forward to when preschool was closed for the summer and I ran into one of the teacher assistants at the library. She was starting out at the preeschool at the time when I had pulled out my son. This teacher approached me and started talking to me about my kids and started questioning me why I had pulled my kids from the school. I explained to her all of my reasoning. All of a sudden she opens up and tells me that it was a good idea that I had pulled him. She told me that the preschool was closed down and that the preschool director was taken out of the school along with all of the other staff. She didn't tell me all of the details of why they were shut down, but she did tell me that the preschool had not passed inspections. But the worse thing she told me was that on one of the episodes of my son having a huge meltdown when they were trying to rehearse for a school play the assistant for the two year olds took my son away to the other church building and that she has no idea what had happend that entire hour with my son alone with that woman, but that she was uncomfortable and felt horrible about my son because as an employee things didn't seem right to her either. She also told me that she had seen inaporpriate things from this woman with other children and that she would never allow her own children to be alone with that woman.

It has been three years since this happend and I am still angry about it. I feel guilty and horrible about not pulling out my son at the exact moment when things just seemed off. I also wish I had more answers about what happend and why did they shut down the preschool and got rid off all the preschool staff including the director. The preschool is again now open, but they completely overhauled it. They've remodled the preschool and combined the 3 and 4 year olds, and stopped taking 2 year olds. The school now has a new director and entire new staff.

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