First of all, I'm so fucking proud of you for overcoming so much and managing to finish one of the hardest parts about this profession, nursing school.

ADN/BSN only matters to management, and it sucks that it does. I worked 5 years as a CNA/Transporter at a local trauma/emergency room, got buddy-buddy with the nurses and managers, and was promised I would get a job pretty easily once I graduated from my ADN program. Never once heard from them, because in the end they only wanted BSN. So I found a job that accepted ADN and got into an online BSN program. Every single class, the first paper we had to write was essentially "Why is it important to get your BSN over an ADN", and every single paper I wrote my answer was "It's not", and miraculously got A's. It's not the level of degree or the number of extra letters after your name that matter, it's the amount of time and experience you have in the field. I would trust my life with a nurse who has an ADN but has been doing this for 10+ years than a BSN/MSN straight out of school.

You fucking did it. You did an incredibly difficult thing, after overcoming even more incredibly difficult things. I'm sorry your family doesn't understand that, but we sure hope you understand that.