I feel you. I'm single again now (mid-40s) and at 6'2" and size 14, it's hard to find single guys that don't look ridiculous next to me. I have to tell myself every day that this is just one aspect, and nowhere near the most important aspect, of a relationship. Sure, it would be great to find my own Toby Keith, but I'd much rather have a guy-- no matter what he looks like-- that's into me for me. And after saying that a few times out loud, I feel really foolish thinking the reverse. I need my guy to know that I like him for who he is, not what he looks like. And then it's pretty easy for me to gain back some confidence in how we look together, because I feel better about myself for being a good person.