Reading through these comments and it's the same things I've been hearing my entire life. What the hell, I'll admit it:
As concisely as I can put it...I'm 41, never had a gf all through school due to: shyness, acne, general awkward/dorkiness. Fast forward to 29: blind date; after 1 yr get engaged; 5 mos. later crash and burn. Haven't had a date since. Guess I'm a "Nice Guy." But it seems to be attractive to folks otherwise...good listener, good conversationalist, articulate, art, music, literature aficionado, writes poetry, but also loves rock and roll, jazz, hotrods, typical "guy" stuff. Average body...decent looking, well-read. Minimum wage job, health problems. Great sense of humor. But I'm about as attractive to a lady as watching paint dry.
And I have to say, downvote or not, that a lot of this "be someone who someone wants to be around" shit is ignorant. I've got tons of friends simply by being me. I'm old enough that I'm outspoken and opinionated. And I'm simply me. Good, bad, or indifferent. And I tell you what...it gets extremely lonely...it would be nice to be wanted, to be desired by someone...for someone to say: I know you aren't perfect, but you're fine how you are.
Yet you go to sites like eHarmony or Match, etc...the women who want some hedge fund-type guy, who can give them a million dollar house in the suburbs and fly them to Switzerland for vacations...outweigh the women looking for: "It'd be nice to meet a decent, hard-working regular guy, with a great sense of humor" type.
Because especially in America, the unwritten rule is...if a guy or gal can't land a solid 8, 9, or 10 in a SO, then they are settling for whatever they can get. Same with our workforce...what parents want their kid to be a welder when they could be white-collar. The idea being that "those people" are the working class, and my kids deserve better. Sorry for the rant.